Is it obligatory upon the woman to wear the jilbab and coverings, if there was difficulties for her in that country?
The shaykh hafidahullaah answers:
Yes the coverings and the hijab are binding upon her in any country, because she is a Muslima. So do not bargain and compromise with her religion, honour and dignity.
May Allah azza wa jal bless our sisters with istiqaamah upon the religion of Islaam and enable them to fulfill their religious obligations and by way of them raise up pious righteous Muslim children upon the correct Islamic Aqeedah.
Entering into marriage is a matter not considered to be light or casual, rather the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم guided the believers in understanding the issues of importance when deciding upon marriage, for certainly it is an affair of relevance in the religion. The husband requires a wife that will honour him and their household, and raise the children upon the correct morals and understandings of the religion, and similarly the wife requires a husband who will be upright and honourable in his religion and duties and rights to his family.
Regarding this affair, a practicing sister asked al ‘Allama Shaikh ‘Abdul-Aziz bin Baz رحمه الله تعالى regarding someone who proposed to her and so she said, “He is a relative of mine, however I refused his proposal for the following reasons: He does not perform his prayer in the congregation, he believes in magicians, he is younger than me in age by 2 years, he is illeterate and cannot read or write, and he spends a lot of time in gatherings [with his friends etc, always out]”.
So the Shaikh replied, “Well done for refusing him, the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم stated, “If someone proposes to you who is pleasing in his religion and morals then marry him”, as for this one [you have mentioned] then he is not pleasing in his religion or morals, well done for refusing him, and I ask Allah He gives you a righteous husband better than him”.
Although the age factor may not be a considerable issue, clearly the fact that his ‘aqeedah was so distorted that he believed and accepted magicians was a damaging and destructive affair in his religion, as well as the fact that he was known for plentiful excursions amongst his friends in gatherings and outings, which may detract from his rights and responsibilites to his household.
Perhaps we may take admonish from this event, seek to rectify ourselves in our marital affairs – or future marital affairs – and recognise the rights and responsibilites upon us, be it the husband or the wife, beginning with the rectification ad solidification of ‘aqeedah and in understanding and learning the affairs of our religion, hence understanding the responsibilites in a better fashion.
There is no harm if your Mother uncovers her face in front of her husband’s children whom he had from another wife, and this is because they are from her Mahrams, Allaah The Most High said: (24,31) (أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنّ) […Or their husband’s sons (24,31)]
[source: Al-Lajnah ad-Daa-imah [Fataawa almar-ah al muslimah–daar at-tawheed p.751]
In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy
Question:
There are some people who ask the husband the morning after having sexual relations with his wife about the virginity of his wife (the bride) saying : “Did you find your wife to be a virgin or not?” Is it permissible for him to respond to this question, even if the questioner was one of the man’s or the woman’s parents?
Answer:
It is neither permissible to ask this question nor respond to it, rather he must close the door to this affair in order to preserve the private affairs of the Muslims. And to Allaah belongs all success, and may peace and blessings be upon our prophet Muhammad (salla Allaahu alaihi wa sallam), his family and his companions.
In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy
Ibnul Jawzee (rahimahullaah) said: Sayyaar (rahimahullaah) reported from Riyaah (rahimahullaah) who said: A woman was mentioned to me, so I married her. Whenever she finished praying Ishaa , she would perfume herself, adorn herself with incense and wear her (fine) clothes; then she would approach me and say: ”Do you have a need?” If I said yes, she would stay with me; and if I said no, she would take off her (fine) clothes and stand up for (prayer) till the morning. Riyaah said: ”By Allaah, she really delighted me.” [Sifatus Safwah: page: 116]
