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Career VS Marriage… Delaying Marriage until after 30! Ibn Uthaymeen

Written by Salafi Dawah Manchester on May 8, 2016. Posted in Articles, Family & Women, Fatawa-Rulings, Seeking Knowledge, Video.

The Consequences upon Whoever Delays Marriage until After 30 Years of Age For The Reason of Building His Future.

The Question: If a young man delays marriage, until after 30 years of age whilst having the ability (to get married), Is there anything upon him because he wants to build his future (first) and complete his education?

The Answer: Yes there is something upon him. And it is (the fact) that he did not follow and take the guidance (and instructions) of the Prophet (sallaAllahu alayhi wa aalihi wa sallam), and his saying is (sallaAllahu alayhi wa sallam):

“O Youth, whoever is able from amongst you to get married, then let him get married, for indeed it is better in lowering the gaze and more preserving for your private parts”. (1)

So he commanded the youth that they should get married and he clarified its benefits. And the statement (excuse) that he is distracted (and busy) with studies and with building his future is a false (invalid) statement. And how many people were not at ease during their studies until after they got married. (after marriage) They found ease (and relief), sufficient provision and self-restraint from looking at that which Allaah has made impermissible, like (looking at) women, pictures and the likes.

Therefore, my advice for the youth (young men & women) in general is that they should get married at the earliest opportunity by following the command of the Messenger of Allaah (sallaAllahu Alayhi wa sallam) and in seeking to attain provision; because the married individual wants chastity and modesty (abstinence and protection from that which Allaah has made impermissible), so Allaah the Glorified and Majestic aids him, as it’s been mentioned in the Hadeeth:

“It is a right on Allaah to aid three (types of people)”,

and he mentioned from them:

“The man who marries wanting chastity”.

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(1) Hadeeth is agreed upon: Bukhaaree, 1905; Muslim, 1400.

Virtue of Hastening to Marriage – Al Imaam ibn Baz

Written by Salafi Dawah Manchester on May 3, 2016. Posted in Articles, Family & Women, Fatawa-Rulings.

The virtue of taking the first opportunity to get married.

Al Imaam ibn Baz (rahimahullah) was asked about delaying marriage due to certain reasons, from them: an individual’s (male or female) job, their social and financial circumstances and studies.

The answer:

What is required is to take the first opportunity to get married. The youth (young man & women) should not delay marriage for the reason of studies.

And the young women should not delay marriage for the reason of studies, as marriage does not prevent anything from that. And it is possible for the young man to get married and preserve his religion, his manners and lower his gaze and at the same time he continues to study.

And likewise for the young women, when Allah makes it easy for her a compatible match, she should hasten to get married even if she is still studying. All of this does not prevent (marriage).

So what is required is to take the first opportunity and to agree to marriage if a compatible person proposes. And studies does not prevent that.

And if a part of the studies was left out, then that’s still ok. What’s important is that you learn that which makes you know your religion. And the rest is a (extra) benefit.

And in marriage there are numerous advantages, especially in this time (we are in), and due to the harm that’s upon the young women and men in delaying it.

Therefore, what is required upon all young men and all young women is to take the first opportunity to get married when a compatible proposer is made possible for a woman.

And when a good woman is made possible for the young man, he should take this opportunity, acting upon the saying of the noble Messenger (upon him be the salaah and salaam) is the authentic Hadith:

“O youth, those who are able amongst you to get married; then he should marry; for indeed it is better in lowering the gaze, and more preserving for the private parts, and whoever is unable, then he should fast, for indeed it is a shield for him” [Agreed upon].

And this includes both the young men and women, and it is not specific to the men, but it is general for both, as both of them are in need of getting married. We ask Allah guidance for everyone.

Narrated by Al-Bukhari in the Book of marriage, chapter (The saying of the Prophet (sallaAllahu alayhi wa sallam:

“Whoever is able amongst you to get married then he shall get married) [#5065].

And Muslim in the Book of marriage. Chapter (Recommendation to get married for the one whose soul desires it) [#1400].

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[1] رواه البخاري في (النكاح)، باب (قول النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: “من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج “)، برقم: 5065، ومسلم في (النكاح)، باب (استحباب النكاح لمن تاقت نفسه إليه)، برقم: 1400.

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A Righteous Wife is foundation of righteous communities – Ash Shaykh Saalih Al Fawzaan

Written by abuaisha on February 27, 2016. Posted in Articles, Family & Women.

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Ash Shaykh Al-Fawzaan – hafidahullah – said:

“Oh mankind know that righteous communities are built on righteous families and good houses; good houses are based upon the righteous wife, due to this it is obligatory for the Muslim that he chooses a righteous wife.

(فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللَّهُ)،

Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard (Soorah An-Nisaa’ Verse 34)

Therefore the Muslim chooses the righteous wife for she is the foundation of the house and she is the cultivator for the offspring and she guards her offspring and husband.

(فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ)
i.e. she is obedient to Allah

(حَافِظَاتٌ لِلْغَيْبِ)

: When her husband is away she preserves herself (chastity), his property and his children until he returns.

A dua of the slaves of Ar-Rahmaan (as mentioned in soorah Al Furqaan)

(رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ)

And those who say: “Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, (Soorah Al-Furqaan Verse 74)

So they began their supplication with the wives (i.e. due to the importance of having righteous wives)”

http://www.alfawzan.af.org.sa/node/14982

The wife raising her voice towards her husband – Shaykh Uthaymeen

Written by abuaisha on October 31, 2013. Posted in Articles, Family & Women, Fatawa-Rulings, Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Purification of The Soul.

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Shaykh Uthaymeen was asked about a woman who raises her voice and shouts at her husband:

(Paraphrasing)
Indeed raising of the wife’s voice towards her husband is from evil manners, and that is because he is her protector and he takes care of her.*

Therefore it is a must that she respects him and addresses him with manners. Because that is more likely to create affection between them and enables friendship and love to remain between them. Likewise the husband must also treat her kindly. So good manners and kind treatment is mutual, Allah the Most High said:

…And treat them kindly; then if you hate them, it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah has placed abundant good in it.
Soorah An-Nisaa’ Verse 19

Fataawa Noor alad Darb li ibn Uthaymeen

* Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband’s property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.
Soorah An-Nisaa Verse 34

Marrying a pregnant woman – Permanent committee

Written by abuaisha on October 31, 2013. Posted in Articles, Family & Women, Fatawa-Rulings, Islamic Jurisprudence - 'Fiqh'.

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

The pregnant divorcee or widow has an iddah (specific time period before she can get married which is) until she has given birth, due to His statement:

And for those who are pregnant (whether they are divorced or their husbands are dead), their ‘Iddah (prescribed period) is until they deliver (their burdens)
Soorah Al-Talaaq Verse 4

(So) the marriage contract with her is obsolete and the marriage is not complete.

Fataawa Al-Lajnah Ad-Daa’imah 4945

“Well done for Refusing to Marry Him!” – Shaikh bin Baz

Written by Salafi Dawah Manchester on October 3, 2012. Posted in Aqeedah (Creed & Belief), Family & Women, Monotheism - Tawheed, Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq'.

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Entering into marriage is a matter not considered to be light or casual, rather the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم guided the believers in understanding the issues of importance when deciding upon marriage, for certainly it is an affair of relevance in the religion. The husband requires a wife that will honour him and their household, and raise the children upon the correct morals and understandings of the religion, and similarly the wife requires a husband who will be upright and honourable in his religion and duties and rights to his family.

Regarding this affair, a practicing sister asked al ‘Allama Shaikh ‘Abdul-Aziz bin Baz رحمه الله تعالى regarding someone who proposed to her and so she said, “He is a relative of mine, however I refused his proposal for the following reasons: He does not perform his prayer in the congregation, he believes in magicians, he is younger than me in age by 2 years, he is illeterate and cannot read or write, and he spends a lot of time in gatherings [with his friends etc, always out]”.

So the Shaikh replied, “Well done for refusing him, the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم stated, “If someone proposes to you who is pleasing in his religion and morals then marry him”, as for this one [you have mentioned] then he is not pleasing in his religion or morals, well done for refusing him, and I ask Allah He gives you a righteous husband better than him”.

Although the age factor may not be a considerable issue, clearly the fact that his ‘aqeedah was so distorted that he believed and accepted magicians was a damaging and destructive affair in his religion, as well as the fact that he was known for plentiful excursions amongst his friends in gatherings and outings, which may detract from his rights and responsibilites to his household.

Perhaps we may take admonish from this event, seek to rectify ourselves in our marital affairs – or future marital affairs – and recognise the rights and responsibilites upon us, be it the husband or the wife, beginning with the rectification ad solidification of ‘aqeedah and in understanding and learning the affairs of our religion, hence understanding the responsibilites in a better fashion.

May Allah grant us all success.

Source: Official Website of Shaikh Bin Baz.

Is it permissible for my mum to uncover herself in front of the children of my father’s other wife, and give them salaam?

Written by abumuaawiyah on May 8, 2012. Posted in Da'wah - Calling To Islam, Fatawa-Rulings, Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

Answer:

There is no harm if your Mother uncovers her face in front of her husband’s children whom he had from another wife, and this is because they are from her Mahrams, Allaah The Most High said: (24,31) (أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنّ) […Or their husband’s sons (24,31)]

[source: Al-Lajnah ad-Daa-imah [Fataawa almar-ah al muslimah–daar at-tawheed p.751]

Translated by: Abu Zainab (Muhammad Al-Hindee)