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Muslim Youth – Marriage, Education and Having Children

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Al-Allamah Rabee Bin Haadi Al-Madkhali, may Allah have mercy upon him, said, “If you are able to exercise patience and seek knowledge, then exercise patience- meaning, study before getting married, just as Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, said “Some people might be prevented from (seeking) knowledge due to marriage”. So, when he gets married, he abandons seeking knowledge and becomes relaxed, and tires himself (i.e. it becomes difficult for him to combine family responsibilities and seeking knowledge at the same time). But if he has the ability to combine the Maslahatayn (i.e. the benefits of marriage and seeking knowledge), then that is good, (as long as) he does not consider himself as one who might commit immoral deeds and fornicate. If this is the case (i.e. fears falling into evil), then -by Allah- it becomes more incumbent upon him to get married to protect himself and guard his chastity”.(1)

Question to Imam Muhammad Bin Salih Al-Uthaymeen, may Allah have mercy upon him, “If a young man delays marriage until he reaches 30 years of age while having the ability (to get married), is there anything incumbent upon him, because he wants to build his future and complete his education?

Response: Yes, something is incumbent upon him and it that he has followed the guidance of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, “O young people! Whoever from among you is able to get married, then you should do so for verily it is the most effective in keeping the gazes lowered and maintaining chastity. [Sahih Muslim. Number 1400]

Thus, the Prophet commanded the youth to get married and clarified its benefits. The statement [i.e. the reason given] that he is preoccupied with studies and building his future is false. How many people were not at ease during their studies until after getting married! They found ease and enough provision, and restraint from looking at what Allah has forbidden, such as women, (forbidden) pictures etc. Therefore, my advice to the youth in general is that they should get married at the earliest opportunity by following the command of the Messenger of Allah and seek provision. This is because the married individual desires chastity and modesty, and Allah helps him, as it has been been stated in the narration, ‘It is a right Allah (has obligated upon Himself) to aid three (types of people)… and one of them is ‘the man who marries wanting chastity’.(2)

Imam Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz [may Allaah have mercy upon him] was asked about a husband and a wife who agreed not to have children and whether this is allowed? So, he responded, “This agreement of theirs is not permissible. As long as the woman is able (to bear children), then it is not permissible for them to do this because the Islamic legislation requires that the people give concern to bearing children and make the Ummah numerous. The Prophet [peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him] said, ‘Marry the childbearing, loving woman for I shall outnumber the peoples by you on the Day of Resurrection’. In another wording (of this narration the Prophet said), ‘Outnumber (i.e. the followers of the other) Prophets on the Day of Judgement’. This is because by way of this (i.e. having many children) those who worship Allah among the Muslims will be numerous, the Ummah will be numerous and strong in opposing their enemies. It is not permissible for a man to abandon having children out of fear of either tiredness in seeking after a livelihood or due to difficulty, or due to expenditure, or due to a desire to enjoy one’s wife and other than that. It also not permissible for a woman to do this, rather it is obligated on both of them to pursue the means of having offspring -be eager to seek the means to having children so that the Ummah becomes numerous and to fulfil what the Prophet [peace and blessings of Allah be upon him] stated. However, if the woman either suffers a lot of pain due to an illness of the womb or she cannot give birth except by way of surgical operation, then this is an excuse to not have children. If the surgical operation [or caesarean] will harm her- it is feared that something will happen to her, and also if the children are many- born at close intervals and bringing them up becomes difficult upon her, then there is nothing to prevent her from taking some pills [or contraception] or some preventative measures for a year or two – the period of breastfeeding- so that she becomes strong enough to nurture the children and able to nurture the other newly born”. (3)


[1] http://www.rabee.net/ar/questions.php?cat=51&id=623 paraphrased.

[2] Fatawa Nur Alad Darb 728

[3] Audio link with transcript http://www.binbaz.org.sa/noor/11853 [NB: This is a general Fatwa, therefore married should ask the scholars about their specific circumstances, in order to receive specific ruling related to their situation].

Reflections on some statements of Al-Allamah Rabee Bin Hadi al-Mad’khali 90

In The Name of Allāh, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

It is necessary to bring together the disparager and the disparaged, the refuter and the refuted, and to seek judgment in the (presence) of the scholars. It is not permissible to pass judgement on the refuted and disparaged person in absentia: 

This is one of the Shubuhaat (1) of Adnan Ar’ur, when he used to demand (or request) from Shaikh Rabee, may Allāh have mercy upon him, to seek judgement (together with him) in the (presence) of Al-Allamah Al-Uthaymin, may Allāh have mercy upon him, concerning the Mukhaalafaat and Dalaalaat (2) for which he was criticised. He used to falsely accuse the scholars – who denounced him due to the observations they made regarding his falsehoods – that they pass judgment on him in absentia, meaning  before Al-Muhakamah (i.e. that in order to make a judgement against him, both him and his opponent must be present in the presence of a scholar), and according to him, this is not permissible. 

Al-Allamah Rabee Al-Mad’khali, may Allāh have mercy upon him, was asked, as found in his treatise “Dar Baghi Adnan” about this Shubha (3): “What is your opinion regarding Adnan’s speech as follows: ‘Among the matters that are universally agreed upon by the nations- Jews, Christians, and Zoroastrians – is that during judicial rulings and judgement, it is incumbent to hear from both parties. It maybe that he did not intend this, maybe he did not desire it, maybe it is a slip of the tongue, maybe it is a Shami expression which is different from a Saudi, maybe it is a Maghribi expression which is different from a Mashriqi. (4) When a man rejects Niyyah [i.e. intention which is a requirement in acts of worship] in Islam, then a judgment is issued without hearing the other side, (leading to accusations of) disbelief; how is (this) disbelief? Meaning, what is its ruling (i.e. the ruling on rejecting Niyyah in islam)? A disbeliever! So how can one judge, be pleased with and accept that a person has rejected Niyyah in Islam merely based on a phone call from an unknown person. Masha-Allah, masha-Allah, (is this) based on knowledge and piety; masha Allah, based on understanding?! Someone on the phone from Europe is talking about a well-known person who is a pioneer in Dawah and lives among them, so what prevented them from verifying this issue?

Shaikh Rabee, may Allāh have mercy upon him, replied: 

Indeed, we are profoundly flabbergasted by this man’s hotchpotch in his speech about the scholars, his belittling of them and his self-aggrandizement in this instance. We are profoundly flabbergasted that he conflates judicial rulings with fatwas, so, at times considering their responses as fatwas and at other times as judicial decisions. This is a strange hotchpotch and an atrociously flawed argument on his part. Sadly, he has placed himself in the position of mentoring senior scholars- members of the Council of Senior Scholars- who have devoted their lives to knowledge, fatwas, and judiciary rulings. They know what is required of them when a questioner asks them questions and when they issue rulings. In any case, it can be understood from his speech (i.e. Adnan) regarding judicial rulings that it is not permissible to issue rulings on someone who is absent under any circumstances.

This speech is false. There are numerous situations where a judgment can be made on a person who is absent and it is not a condition that he should be present, nor is a judge obliged to hear from both parties. This matter is well-established and its proof is that Hind bint Utbah said to the prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him, “Indeed, Abu Sufyan is a stingy man and he does not give us what suffices me and my children, can I take from his wealth?” He (i.e. the prophet) said: “Take from his wealth that which suffices you and your children”. [Al-Bukhari 5364 and Muslim 1714]

He did not say: “Where is Abu Sufyan? Where is he, bring him to me so that he hears this speech?” Allāh’s messenger, peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him, passed a judgement on him while he was absent. He allowed this woman – the wife of Abu Sufyah – to take from his wealth even without his consent. This is a ruling on an absent person. In the Mad’habs of Ahmad, Shafi’i, and Malik, and other than them among the scholars of the Ummah, is that in matters regarding the rights of the people and mutual dealings, it is permissible to make a judgement on the one who is absent.

Here, I reference what Al-Bukhari has stated. He said: “Chapter: Judgment on the one who is absent” with his chain of narration to Urwah, from Aisha that Hind said to the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him, “Indeed, Abu Sufyan is a stingy man and I am in need from his wealth”, so he said: “Take what suffices you and your children in a reasonable manner”. Al-Hafidh (i.e. Ibn Hajr) said about the statement “(Judgement) on the one who is absent”, meaning, (concerning) the rights of the children of Adam, but not Allāh’s rights, based on the consensus (of the scholars that this applies) even if evidence is established against an absent person regarding theft, for instance, financial judgments that is other than the judgment of cutting the hand. Ibn Battal said: “Malik, Al-Layth, Al-Shafi’i, Abu Ubaid, and others have permitted judgments on the absent person”.

Ibn Abd al-Barr said: “the comprehensive nature of judicial rulings in lawsuits”. Judgment can be made against an absentee with regards to rights, mutual dealings, debts, and all rights, with the exception of real estate because no judgement is made about it, except if the person’s absence is prolonged and it harms his opponent. If this becomes the case, a judgement is made. This is the Mad’hab of Malik. When it is the case that it is permissible to pass a judgment on a dead person, judgement on an absent person is even more permissible. Also, in the Mad’hab of Imam Ahmad, judgement on an absent person is permissible”. The author of “Al-Mughni” reported a difference of opinion on this matter, then he (concluded that what) carries more weight is the permissibility (of passing judgement on an absent person) and he used as evidence the hadith of Aa’isha in the story of Hind, while also pointing out contradictions in Abu Hanifa’s stance.

Adnan neither knows the value of the scholars nor the value of knowledge, nor does he know the conditions of Fatwa. Despite this, he behaves arrogantly towards the scholars and makes them the most ignorant people. So, all the nations make it a condition with regards to judicial rulings and lawsuits that the judge should hear from both parties; all the nations, in Adnan’s view, are acquainted with this, Jews, Christians, and Zoroastrians, while these scholars are ignorant of these matters that are known to the nations of disbelief.

Then the questioner said: May Allāh protect you. What is your view on his earlier statement where he said that perhaps it wasn’t intended that way, it could have been a slip of the tongue, or that the expression might differ between Syrian and Saudi dialects, or even between Moroccan and Eastern expressions, thus, one passes a judgement without hearing the other side in the matter of disbelief. How can that be considered disbelief, meaning, when a man rejects the Niyyah in Islam?

Shaikh Rabee- may Allāh have mercy upon him – responded: This man has elevated himself and his speech to a status unprecedented by anyone else. Scholars listen to the speech of a scholar or someone other than him, clarifies for him that it is a mistake, and then criticises. (For instance), one narrates a hadith and makes a mistake, he (another person) says: “So and so has made a mistake, so and so has misperceived, so and so makes a lot of mistakes, so and so narrates munkar hadith”. He does not summon this narrator and say: “Maybe you intended such and such; inform me of what you intended, perhaps you intended such”. (Rather), he passes judgement on his speech that it is an error. He reads a book, then finds an error in it, he authors volumes to debate this scholar regarding what he considers as mistakes, and none says that (one uses) this method mentioned by Adnan.

Al-Shafi’i engaged in discussions with Malik and Muhammad ibn al-Hasan, the companion of Abu Hanifa, regarding statements they made and rulings they issued. No one said to him: “Why did you approach Muhammad ibn al-Hasan or why did you not engage in discussion with Malik during his lifetime. Why? Why? Why?” No one says this, except the ignorant and the dull-witted who utter the likes of this speech, and put forward such objections. The Salaf used to critique people regarding their beliefs, their statements, and their actions, and they considered this as part of enjoining good and forbidding evil. They would issue fatwas based on the statements they received, and no one says they did not summon the speaker and say, “What did you intend, this or do you intended such and such”. 

An Excerpt from Juhud Al-Allamah Rabee Al-Mad’khali Fee Naqd Shubuhat Al-Hizbiyeen An Manhaj An-Naqd Inda Ahli As-Sunnah As-Salafiyyeen 165-170


[1] Shubuhaat: doubts or ambiguities that are made to resemble truth but are falsehood in reality

[2] Mukhalafaat: deeds, beliefs, or methodologies that are opposition to what is right in the divine legislation. Dalaalaat: deeds, beliefs or methodologies that are tantamount to misguidance in religious practice.

[3] Shubhah: the singular of Shubuhaat

[4] Shaam: includes countries like Syria, Lebanon, Palestine etc. Maghrib: includes Algeria, Libya, Morocco, Tunisia etc. Mashriqh: includes Egypt, Sudan, etc

Tele link Between Al-Allamah Rabee and the “Strangers Brigade” 1999

In The Name of Allāh, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Telephone Link Between Al-Allamah Rabee, may Allah have mercy upon him, and the “Strangers Brigade” dated 2nd Ramadan 1420 AH

Questioner: The brothers here have realised that there is no path to guidance and truth except by returning to the scholars — the scholars of Ahl Al-Sunnah — in this era, asking them, and adhering to their statements thereafter. Now, we present to you the most critical issue currently unfolding on the Algerian scene, which is the ongoing conflict between us and the ruling regime for the past eight years. We seek to know your opinion on this matter together with the largest platoon.

We have questions that we urgently need you to clarify the truth for us, so we hope, dear Shaikh, for a thorough and clear explanation. Please open your heart to us and perhaps Allah may guide back to the truth those who have strayed from it, and Allah’s aid is sought!

First question: What is your opinion on the ongoing conflict in Algeria? On what basis do you form your statements and stance, dear Shaikh, knowing that we adhere to the Salafi methodology, uphold the banner of Ahl As-Sunnah Wal Jama’ah, and disassociate ourselves from Jama’ah Takfir Wal-Hijrah that commit massacres and atrocities? We also disassociate ourselves from the proponents of illegal partisanship who revolve around elections and partisanship, among other things?

The Shaikh: May Allah reward you with goodness. I am currently preparing to go to the prayer at Masjid Al-Haram. I want to remind you of the fatwas from scholars and Imams of the Sunnah in this era, such as Shaikh Al-Albani, Shaikh Ibn Baz, and Ibn Uthaymeen. Have you heard and read their fatwas?

Questioner: Yes, we have received them, but some doubts have prevented us from benefiting from them, and we need your answers to these, O our Shaikh.

The Shaikh: “Therefore, the answers to these questions will be postponed until I return from prayer at the Masjid Al-Haram”. Then, the Shaikh made another appointment for later that same day. But before the call ended, the Shaikh added: “I have a quick question for you: What percentage of these individuals are Salafis?”

Questioner: They are a large group, O our Shaikh, a very large group!

The Shaikh: Good, if they are Salafis, why didn’t they refer to the scholars before getting involved in this problem?

Questioner: They were actually relying on a fatwa from Shaikh Nasir Ad-Din al-Albani — I mean — an old fatwa, but it has now become clear that it wasn’t — you know — as strong and sound as they thought, and Allah knows best.

The Shaikh: Good, InShaAlllah, in any case, the investigation will continue later. 

And at the appointed time, the revolutionaries contacted the Shaikh

Questioner: We would like to inform you that the ones speaking to you now are your brothers from Algeria, specifically the fighters of the “Salafi Group for Preaching and Combat”, and we are part of one of its brigades: “The Strangers Brigade” in Bouira. Of course, we’ll return after having received insights from the scholars, and we would like to present you with some questions. We had already given you the initial part this morning, and now we are providing you with the details, InShaAllah. Generally, I would like to provide you, our Shaikh, with an overview of the events that have transpired from the beginning until today; so that you have a complete picture of what has occurred, InShaAllah.

As you know, our Shaikh, the issue began with the emergence of the “Islamic Salvation Front” on the scene. The concept of partisanship and elections came into play, but then the elections were halted, leading to the events that unfolded during that time. In 1992, a group among the Takferis initiated acts of violence, while the “Islamic Salvation Front”, during that period, was only supporting the fight through media, encouraging the youth to participate. After that, it spread among the brothers that Shaikh Nasir Ad-Din al-Albani had issued a fatwa regarding this fighting, saying: “Hasten! Hasten!” There is an audio recording from that time, amidst the media circumstances and the changing conditions, I mean the youth began to join these fighters in waves.

The Shaikh: Let me hear the tape of al-Albani.

Questioner: What Shaikh?

The Shaikh: Let me hear the words of Shaikh al-Albani where he said “Hasten! Hasten”.  I say: Let me listen to the voice of Shaikh Al-Albani, whose fatwa you have relied upon.

Questioner: The tape is available, but it is based on a reality that does not correspond to the one that the Shaikh was asked about; it did not provide the correct circumstances. It was made to seem to him that there were certain provisions, and that there were 7 million and 3 million, and so forth. Thus, the Shaikh said: “Hasten! Hasten!” as if he understood the opposite of the true circunmstances, leading to the situation that occurred.

The Shaikh: I say, may Allah bless you: Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger, his family, and his companions, and those who follow his guidance. Now, I see that you distinguish between the Salafis and the Takfiris?

Questioner: Yes, indeed!

The Shaikh: From what you’ve said, I understand that you disassociate yourselves from those who declare an unrestricted takfir against the people. Does this imply that you also engage in takfir?

Questioner: Yes, indeed! Yes, indeed! We are not in that manner, but rather in a different way.

The Shaikh: What is your form of takfir?

Questioner: The group declares takfir on the ruler, which is why they have revolted against him.

The Shaikh: The ruler, the army, the ministers, and those around them?

Questioner: Yes indeed! Anyone who joins the ruler’s faction is fought alongside him!

The Shaikh: Do they fight him on the grounds that he is an unbeliever?

Questioner: No, not in the sense of a specific act of disbelief. Not every individual in the faction is considered specifically an unbeliever, O our Shaikh!

The Shaikh: Do you consider the ruler to be an unbeliever at present?

Questioner: Yes, indeed!

The Shaikh: Why do you label him as such?

Questioner: Based on the fact that he has set aside Islamic law and replaced it with man-made laws, and he has fought against Muslims, and Shaikh Nasir Ad-Din al-Albani has issued a fatwa on this matter, as I mentioned to you earlier.

The Shaikh: No! Now, what about the new fatwa from Al-Albani?

Questioner:  The new one? This is where our confusion and bewilderment lie, O our Shaikh!

The Shaikh: Al-Albani declares the rulers of Algeria to be disbelievers? Did Al-Uthaymeen or Al-Fawzan say that the rulers are disbelievers? Laa Hawla Walaa Quwwata Illaa Billaah!

Questioner: They did not say that, O our Shaikh.

The Shaikh: Good, and you believe that their disbelief is evident and that there is a proof from Allah, as if they said that Islam is not suitable, that it is backward, and that these laws are better than Islam. Did they say this?

Questioner: We have not heard this from them, O our Shaikh.

The Shaikh: Therefore, you have no clear evidence that they are unbelievers upon a clear (blatant) disbelief. This should be treated according to what has been mentioned in the hadiths that have been transmitted from Allāh’s messenger, peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him, about the Muslim’s stance towards a deviated ruler – the rulers whose good deeds you know and approve and disapprove of their evil deed, about whom he (the Prophet) was said: “They are guided by other than my guidance and follow a path other than my Sunnah”. And there are many hadiths on this matter to the extent that when the Prophet was asked: “Should we fight them?” He replied: “No, not as long as they establish prayer among you”. This means they deviate while in Islam to the very end. If they continue to pray and claim to be Muslims, they should not be fought or rebelled against. Do you understand these points?

Questioner: We listen to you, our virtuous Shaikh, and we are learning from you now.

The Shaikh: Yes, may Allah bless you, study these hadiths, study the statements of the scholars, and study the speech of Al-Albani. You must seek knowledge. Then I ask you: after eight years, what are the fruits of this fighting? What have the Muslims gained from this Jihad?

Questioner: So far, nothing, Shaikh!

The Shaikh: How many have been killed, how much wealth has been lost, how many rights have been violated, and so on?

Questioner: A lot! A lot!

The Shaikh: So many! So many! You have supported this situation, you have backed the Takferis who shed blood, and they have been emboldened by your, and you aided them. You say that you are Salafis and that you oppose their views, but they benefit from your support, and their boldness (in committing crimes) against this society increases through you, crushing them, leaving them with neither (practice of the) religion nor worldly possessions! Is Islam pleased with these qualities?!

Questioner: No, our Shaikh! We have indeed had conflict and disputes with them.

The Shaikh: What led the Algerian people, including its youth, students, and others, to embrace Salafism? Was it this current situation or the time of the revolution and turmoil?

Questioner: The current situation is not better!

The Shaikh: Good, you fought to improve the situation compared to what it was?

Questioner: Yes, indeed! Yes, indeed! It’s an evil situation, O our Shaikh, it’s an evil situation until now!

The Shaikh: Do you not find a lesson in this?! Isn’t this proof that this jihad stemmed from ignorance, and (dubious) Fatwas, we ask Allah for safety. They did not seek guidance from scholars, and instead took the wicked ones – ignorant ones- as leaders – who issue rulings without knowledge, leading themselves and others astray, and they did not stop at misguidance only, but went further to spill blood and destroy Islam. Islam has been severely and horrifically destroyed in Algeria due to the actions of these people!! Perhaps if they had not rushed and had approached knowledge with insight, the Islamic state in Algeria might have been a reality. However, due to their ignorance and ill intentions—because their motives are corrupt and they seek only power—they do not aim to elevate the word of Allāh. They desire to ascend to the pinnacle of governance, which is why they have created elections, democracy, and empty rhetoric. Their only focus is on wrestling with the rulers, and their sole concern is to reach the heights of power. After achieving that, they turn their backs on Islam, just as their counterparts have done in Sudan, Turkey, and elsewhere.

If these individuals were to gain power, they would increase fear and oppression among the people, straying further from Islam…So now… take heed from what has transpired, and roll up your sleeves to gain knowledge and guide this good nation back to the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of the Messenger, so that it may return to its former state before this turmoil, and then advance towards achieving the goals that Islam aspires to.

Questioner: Our Shaikh! According to your statement, it seems that one cannot declare a ruler to be a disbeliever, even if he rules by laws other than what Allah has revealed, until the scholars make such a judgment.

The Shaikh: Yes! The scholars must first see a clear act of disbelief, and then after the fatwa is issued, the question arises whether to fight or not; because Allah says: 

وَأَعِدُّوا لَهُمْ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُمْ مِن قُوَّةٍ وَمِن رِبَاطِ الخَيْلِ تُرْهِبُونَ بِهِ عَدُوَّ اللهِ وَعَدُوَّكُمْ

And prepare against them whatever you are able of power and of steeds of war by which you may terrify the enemy of Allah and your enemy.  [Al-Anfal 60]

This applies if they are disbelievers. I had some young men come to me at the beginning of this conflict, and I asked them: Have you prepared for battle, considering they are disbelievers in your eyes? They replied: No! I said: You do not have power, while they possess aircrafts, tanks, and so much more, backed by Britain, America, and all the other nations. You have nothing at your disposal, so you haven’t prepared the necessary measures to instill fear in the enemy of Allah. Instead, you have only prepared what encourages the enemy of Allāh against you and Islam. Even if the ruler is openly a disbeliever, in Algeria or elsewhere, it is essential to refer to the scholars. They are the ones who can assess the benefits and harms, determining when fighting is justified and when it is not, and so on. It should not be left to the foolish, the ignorant, or those with ambitions for power. This is a mistake, and you have seen the consequences of this recklessness.

You must repent to Allah, the Exalted, for you may not escape accountability before Him regarding the blood that has been shed, the honour that has been violated, and the wealth that has been stolen and plundered. So turn to Allah with a sincere repentance — may Allah bless you — for you bear the responsibility before Allah, the Mighty and Majestic, because you have participated with these people. Therefore, repent to Allah with a sincere repentance for what has happened to the rights of the Muslims… the oppressed. Then roll up your sleeves, for Allah accepts repentance. And roll up your sleeves in earnest pursuit of knowledge, and call upon your brothers who remain in the mountains to repent and return to Allah. Convey to them the likes of this. [An except from this video: https://youtu.be/2-IZRfLsxwY?si=xrNXOqvl3OgmTchk ]

The motivation behind sharing this excerpt stems from a conversation I had with Ustaadh Zaid Khalid, may Allah preserve him, on Monday. We discussed how even senior scholars refer their elders, during which he recounted an incident and provided me with this Youtube video in which Al-Allamah Rabee Bin Hadi Al-Mad’khali, may Allah have mercy upon him, directed these individuals to the Fatwa of the senior scholars prior to addressing their doubts.

https://salafidawah.uk/2021/02/10/believers-bahaviour-towards-muslim-rulers-advise-given-in-private-supplicate-for-them-and-refrain-from-rebellion-so-beware-of-spiteful-foreign-instigators-and-some-dangerous-social-media-networ/

Seeking out the most elderly and senior scholars

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

The question: This questioner, Ahmad Kashuqah from Amman, Jordan, says: O revered Shaikh, when the statements of the scholars differ regarding the ruling on a particular issue—some saying it is Makruh (disliked), some say it is Haraam (unlawful) and some say Laa Yajuz (it is not allowed), is the verdict Haraam the best of these statements and is this always the case? And if they differ regarding a matter being allowed, recommended and that there is no harm regarding it, is the verdict recommended the best statement, and is this always the case?

Response: There is a detail clarification regarding this matter. It is incumbent upon the one seeking a verdict to examine the matter [ويتحرى من هو أقرب إلى الخير والعلم والفضل وأقرب إلى إصابة الحق – and carefully seek for the one closest to goodness, knowledge and virtue, and closer to reaching the truth] in order to follow their fatwa. If one exercises caution, while the matter is a situation where this one says “haraam”, that one says “It is not Haraam”, he exercises caution and leaves it. This would be better. The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “Leave that which makes you doubt for that which does not make you doubt.” [a] “So whoever took caution regarding the ambiguous matters has absolved himself regarding his religion and his honour”.[b]

However, if he is able, he carefully seeks until he knows [من هو أكثر علمًا، ومن هو أكثر ورعًا، ومن هو أقرب إلى الصواب – who has more knowledge, has more of that fear of Allah that makes a person abandon doubtful matters out of fear of falling into Haram, and the one who is closer to reaching what is correct] in order to follow his statement and so that his heart is at ease, similar to what the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “Consult your heart”. [c] Righteousness is that about which the soul feels tranquil and the heart feels tranquil. If faced with differing fatwas, if the Fatwa differs, a believer examines and contemplates, and he is not hasty; [يتحرى من هو أقرب إلى الناس للإصابة من أهل العلم والبصيرة والورع والذي يرجح في قلبه أنه أقرب إلى الخير وأقرب إلى إصابة الحق – he seeks among the people of knowledge the one closest to reaching the truth, the possessors of clear-sightedness and that fear of Allah that makes a person avoid doubtful matters out of fear of falling into what is forbidden – the one his heart considers to be closer to good and closer to reaching the truth].

Similarly, in matters of recommendation, if there is disagreement regarding whether something is recommended or permissible, one should carefully consider the opinions. If his heart holds an overwhelming inclination -based on what is apparent – towards the statement of the one who says that the matter is recommended, he should act on the recommendation. If your heart is at ease that the matter is permissible only, it should be treated as permissible. The goal (intent) regarding all of this is that the one who seeks fatwa or the listener should examine and contemplate without haste, he examines the situation and circumstances of the Muftis, and he examines what is closer to good in terms of them having that fear of Allah that makes a person avoid doubtful matters out of fear of falling into Haram, their careful pursuit of the truth, and their good reputation, among other things. [end of quote] [1] Paraphrased

After the passing of many of the elderly and senior scholars, when our own elder sons and daughters in our homes have questions about religion, we direct them to the most senior, elderly scholars like Al-Allamah Salih al-Fawzan, Al-Allamah Abdul Muhsin Al-Abbad, Al-Allamah Rabee Bin Hadi al-Mad'khali, and Al-Allamah Abdul Aziz Aala ash-Shaikh. We also remind them that this does not mean we ignore others who are much younger and lesser in knowledge than these senior, elderly scholars; instead, we simply priortise the most experienced scholars while we are still alive. And we remind them that we assume this is why Shaikh Abu Iyaad, may Allah preserve him, even though he respects and values all the scholars, however, he specifically chose the most senior and elderly scholars when asking about a specific matter. Read here: https://salafidawah.uk/2025/04/27/for-your-information/

Also read: https://salafidawah.uk/2025/04/21/self-scrutiny-when-following-proofs-or-asking-questions/

In saying all this, Taqleed has its precise place. Al-Allamah Salih Al-Fawzan, may Allah have mercy upon him, stated on this link that the layperson or the beginner in the path of knowledge has no option but to make Taqleed because they do not have the ability to make Ijtihaad, so they make Taqleed of the people of knowledge, as Allah said:

فَسْـَٔلُوٓا۟ أَهْلَ ٱلذِّكْرِ إِن كُنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ

Ask Ahl Adh-Dhikr (the people of Shariah knowledge) if you do not know. [d][Paraphrased]

In addition, we also remind the sons and daughters in our households regarding the matter mentioned in the document: rabee-01-specifying-shaykhs

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Footnotes:

[a] https://www.nawawis40hadith.com/nw/hadith/11/leaving-doubt
[b] https://www.nawawis40hadith.com/nw/hadith/6/the-doubtful-matters
[c] https://www.nawawis40hadith.com/nw/hadith/27/righteousness-and-sin
[d] https://www.alfawzan.af.org.sa/ar/node/15726


السؤال: هذا السائل أحمد كشوقة من الأردن عمان يقول: سماحة الشيخ: إذا اختلفت أقوال العلماء في حكم مسألة ما، فمنهم من قال: مكروه، ومنهم من قال: حرام، ومنهم من قال: لا يجوز، فهل أحسن القول في هذه الأحكام هو الحرام؟ وهل هذا دائمًا؟ وإذا اختلفوا على مسألة بأنها جائزة مستحبة لا بأس بها فهل الأحسن القول هو الاستحباب؟ وهل هذا دائمًا، وجهونا بهذا مأجورين؟

الجواب: هذا فيه تفصيل على المستفتي أن ينظر في الأمر، ويتحرى من هو أقرب إلى الخير والعلم والفضل وأقرب إلى إصابة الحق حتى يأخذ بفتواه، وإذا احتاط والمسألة: هذا يقول: حرام، وهذا يقول: ليس بحرام، واحتاط وترك ذلك فهذا حسن؛ لقول النبي ﷺ: دع ما يريبك إلى ما لا يريبك من اتقى الشبهات فقد استبرأ لدينه وعرضه ولكن إذا تيسر له أن يتحرى حتى يعرف من هو أكثر علمًا، ومن هو أكثر ورعًا، ومن هو أقرب إلى الصواب حتى يأخذ بقوله، حتى يطمئن قلبه، مثلما قال ﷺ: استفت قلبك البر ما اطمأنت إليه النفس واطمأن إليه القلب، إذا اختلفت عليه الفتاوى، إذا اختلفت الفتوى فالمؤمن ينظر ويتأمل ولا يعجل، يتحرى من هو أقرب إلى الناس للإصابة من أهل العلم والبصيرة والورع والذي يرجح في قلبه أنه أقرب إلى الخير وأقرب إلى إصابة الحق، وهكذا في الاستحباب إذا اختلفوا هذا سنة أو مباح يتحرى، فإذا غلب على قلبه واطمأن قلبه إلى قول من قال: إنه مستحب، عمل عمل المستحب، وإذا اطمأن قلبك إلى أنه مباح فقط عامله معاملة المباح.
والمقصود من هذا كله أن المستفتي أو السامع ينظر ويتأمل ولا يعجل، وينظر حال المفتين وأحوالهم، وينظر ما هو أقرب إلى الخير من جهة ورعهم ومن جهة تحريهم الحق، ومن جهة سمعتهم الحسنة، إلى غير ذلك

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/8821/%D9%85%D9%88%D9%82%D9%81-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%B3%D8%AA%D9%81%D8%AA%D9%8A-%D8%A7%D8%B0%D8%A7-%D8%A7%D8%AE%D8%AA%D9%84%D9%81%D8%AA-%D8%A7%D9%82%D9%88%D8%A7%D9%84-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D9%81%D8%AA%D9%8A%D9%86

Cosmetic Surgery

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Imam Abdul Aziz Bin Baz, may Allah have mercy upon him, was asked: “The correspondence as follows was sent by our brother Ismaa’eel Al-Bashir Ali Sudani, working in Qatar. Our brother has three questions. In his first question, he asks about Islam’s ruling on cosmetic surgery?”

The response:

This matter requires (detail) clarification: If a surgical procedure does not alter anything that Allah has decreed to remain as it is (i.e. its natural state), then it is permissible. For instance, if the beautification neither involves tattooing on the face of a person nor the amputation of a body part, but rather, it is for a face-lift or body enhancement, or to reshape a deformity, such as a deformed hand, a leg, or reshaping a deformed nose, there is no harm in this; or teeth that have some defect, such as uneven lengths or misalignment, or removing dark spots on the lips, or something that can be removed to attain a fine appearance without opposing Allah’s command in anything of that, then there is no harm. The Prophet, peace and blessing of Allah be upon him, prohibited tattooing and hair extensions but did not forbid beautification.

Also, if there is a growth on the hand or foot, it is permissible to remove it if a doctor determines that the procedure poses no risk. Similarly, if there is a tumor on the face or hand that can be treated, there is no harm in that, or if there are dark spots on the body or face that can be treated. There is no harm in all this because it is beautification; it does not oppose Allah’s command. [Paraphrased]


An Excerpt from this link:

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/17659/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D8%B3%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%85-%D9%81%D9%8A-%D8%AC%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%AD%D8%A9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA%D8%AC%D9%85%D9%8A%D9%84#:~:text=%D8%A5%D8%B0%D8%A7%20%D9%83%D8%A7%D9%86%D8%AA%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AC%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%AD%D8%A9%20%D9%84%D8%A7%20%D8%AA%D8%BA%D9%8A%D8%B1,%D9%85%D9%8A%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%86%20%D8%A8%D8%B9%D8%B6%D9%87%D8%A7%D8%8C%20%D8%A3%D9%88%20%D8%B3%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AF%20%D9%81%D9%8A

Moon sighting in different countries – Introduction

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Imam Abdul Aziz Bin Baz, may Allah have mercy upon him, was asked: This questioner from the Republic of Egypt says: What should be the stance of the brothers regarding the fasting in the month of Ramadan when the sighting of the crescent moon vary from one country to another and across other Islamic countries? May Allah reward you with good.

Answer: It is correct that each people of a country has its own sighting. Every country has its own sighting. If the people of Egypt fast based on their sighting, the people of Sham based on their sighting and the people of Morocco based on their sighting, there is no harm. However, if it is easy (possible) for them to fast based on a single sighting, it would be more preferable and better; if that is made easy (possible) due to the statement of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, “Fast when you see it, and break your fast when you see it.” This applies to the entire Ummah. Thus, if it is made easy (or possible) for them to fast based on the sighting of Saudi Arabia or another Islamic nation that judges by Allah’s Sharia, establishes Allah’s commands, and this sighting is confirmed by witnesses, but not calculations, there is no harm; this is better. If they all fast based on a single sighting, this is better due to the general proofs.

However, if that is not easy (i.e. it is impossible or unfacilitated), and the regions and countries are distant, while each people of a country fast based on their own sighting, there is no harm . This is the position that carries the greatest weight according to a group of scholars. The Committee of Senior Scholars have studied this matter and they hold that there is no hindrance (or obstacle) with regards to every country acting upon their own sighting if it is not made easy (i.e. not possible) for them to establish the prayer (i.e. Eid prayer) based on a single sighting. As for calculating the start and end of Ramadan, it is not permissible. The obligation is to act upon the sighting because the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “Fast when you see it (the moon) and break your fast when you see it. If the moon is obscured (or concealed due to cloud cover or not seen), complete the month (as 30 days)”. It is not permissible to depend on calculation to affirm (or confirm) the month of Ramadan- neither its beginning nor its end, nor the month of Dhul Hijjah. The obligation is to act upon the sighting, and if the cresecent is not sighted when the (new) month is about to enter, then complete Shabah (as 30 days). If the crescent is not sighted when the month of Ramadan is about to end, complete Ramadan as 30 days. This is what is obligated to all Muslims wherever they may be. [1]

Imam Muhammad Ibn Salih Al-Uthaymin, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

If it is established that the crescent has been sighted in a place among the Muslim countries based on how the Sharia clarifies regarding its sighting, it is obligatory to act accordingly. (If) your country does not adhere to this, it is not permissible for you to publicly express your disagreement due to the trial, chaos and dispute it would cause. Instead, if able when the crescent moon of Ramadan is sighted, you begin the fast discreetly and break your fast discreetly when the crescent of Shawwaal is sighted. As for openly opposing, this is not permissible and it is not something Islam has commanded. [2]


[1] https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/17754/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%B5%D9%8A%D8%A7%D9%85-%D9%83%D9%84-%D8%A8%D9%84%D8%AF-%D8%AD%D8%B3%D8%A8-%D8%B1%D9%88%D9%8A%D8%AA%D9%87-%D9%84%D9%84%D9%87%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%84#:~:text=%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B5%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%A8%20%D8%A3%D9%86%20%D9%84%D9%83%D9%84%20%D8%A3%D9%87%D9%84%20%D8%A8%D9%84%D8%AF,%D8%B1%D8%A4%D9%8A%D8%A9%20%D8%AF%D9%88%D9%84%D8%A9%20%D8%A5%D8%B3%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%85%D9%8A%D8%A9%20%D8%AA%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85%20%D8%A8%D8%B4%D8%B1%D8%B9

[2] Majmu Al-Fatawa 19/44

Wagers allowed only for racing camels, or horses or shooting arrows

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “Wagers are allowed only for racing camels, or horses or shooting arrows”. [Sahih Sunan Abi Dawud 2574]

Imam Al-Khattabi, may Allah have mercy upon him, said: “Wagers and gifts (prizes) are only deserved in the context of horse and camel racing, as well as similar activities, and in archery, which is considered a form of combat preparation. This is because these activities serve as means of readiness in the fight against the enemy, and offering rewards for them encourages and motivates participation in jihad. However, engaging in races that do not pertain to military preparation or do not enhance one’s capability for Jihad is prohibited, and taking a reward for such races is not permissible.” [1]

Shaikh Al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah stated: “If one of the participants or an outsider were to offer a reward, it would fall under the category of prizes. Such practices are prohibited, except in cases that yield benefits, such as competitions and contests, as indicated in the hadith: “Wagers are allowed only for racing camels or horses or shooting arrows”. This is because offering money for purposes that do not serve a beneficial role in either religion or worldly affairs is forbidden, even if it does not constitute gambling. [2]

Imam Muhammad Ibn Salih al-Uthaymin, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

The Prophet permitted competitions involving rewards in three specific activities, while prohibiting them in others. This exception serves to distinguish these activities from gambling or its close resemblance, as competitions that involve a reward can lead to a situation where one party benefits at the expense of another, which is the essence of gambling. If one were to inquire why these three activities are allowed, the response is that they serve to support the Jihad in the path of Allah. Camels are utilized to carry the belongings and weapons of the fighters, as well as to transport the fighters themselves. The arrows are employed by the combatants to defend themselves and to attack their enemies. Similarly, the horse is used for charging and retreating, making it a valuable asset in warfare and in the pursuit of jihad for the sake of Allah. [3]

NB: Any alternative form of competition that could be viewed as supportive of Jihad [Footnote a] or advantageous in religious or worldly matters should be directed to qualified scholars for a specific Fatwa. This is to prevent individuals from making personal analogies that may lead to the endorsement of what is impermissible or the prohibition of what is permissible. Consequently, it is essential to seek the guidance of scholars in specific situations where one believes there may be a justification for their intended actions.

Footnote a: Read: https://abukhadeejah.com/salafi-shaikh-fawzaan-on-jihaad-in-our-times-and-the-guidelines-of-jihaad-according-to-islam/


[1] Ma’alim al-Sunan. (2/255)

[2] Majmu Al-Fataawaa 32/223]

[3] https://www.alathar.net/home/esound/index.php?op=codevi&coid=33043 paraphrased

The danger of mocking the scholars of Islam

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Imam Abdul Aziz Bin Baz, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

والمستهزئ بالعلماء، أو بطلبة العلم، أو بطالبات العلم، إذا كان مقصوده الاستهزاء بالدِّين؛ كفر.
أما إن كان يستهزئ بطالب العلم من أجل رثاثة ثيابه، أو من أجل عِلَّة فيه: من مرضٍ، أو شبه ذلك، أو عرجٍ، فهذا الاستهزاء منكر، وليس بكفرٍ، هذا منكر ومعصية.
أما إذا استهزأ به لدينه ولتقواه فهذا استهزاء بالدين -نعوذ بالله- يكون من الردّة عن الإسلام؛ لأنه استهزأ بالدِّين، إذا كان يتنقّص بالدين، ويرى أن الدين ناقص، ويرى أن الذين ينتسبون إليه ناقصون، وأن المنتسبين إلى غيره أوْلى منهم وأزكى؛ فهذا هو التنقص في الدين، وهذا هو الذي فيه الاستهزاء بالله وبآياته ورسوله

The one who mocks the scholars, students of knowledge, or female students of knowledge; if his intention is  to mock the religion, it constitutes disbelief. However, if one mocks a student of knowledge due to the tattered state of their clothing or a physical ailment, such as an illness or a disability, this mockery is an evil deed and not disbelief. It is an evil deed and a sin. As for if he mocks at an individual because of their religion (Islam) and because of their piety, this is mockery of religion—we seek refuge in Allah, and it becomes Riddah (apostasy from Islam) because he has mocked the religion. [Footnote a]

If he  belittles the religion, perceives it as deficient, and views its adherents as inferior, while considering those who ascribe to other than it as superior and more virtuous, this is tantamount to belittling the religion (or diminishing its worth). This is what carries mockery of Allah, His signs and Messenger. [1] [end of quote]

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Footnote a: It is imperative to emphasise unequivocally that the sole individuals authorised to render a judgment of apostasy against a Muslim are the upright scholars of Islam, and no others. For further information, please refer to this link. Who Ought To Pronounce Takfir and Establish the Hadd Punishment:

https://salafipublications.com/sps/sp.cfm?subsecID=MNJ09&articleID=MNJ090004&articlePages=1


[1]https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/21134/%D9%85%D8%A7-%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D8%B3%D8%AA%D9%87%D8%B2%D8%A7%D8%A1-%D8%A8%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AF%D9%8A%D9%86-%D9%88%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%AA%D9%85%D8%B3%D9%83%D9%8A%D9%86-%D8%A8%D9%87 paraphrased

All in the fire except one

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Imam Abdul Aziz Bin Baz, may Allah have mercy upon him, was asked: “What is the intent behind the statement of the Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, statement when he spoke about the Ummah in the hadith: “All of them (the sects) are in the fire except one” and what is that one?. Also, will all the other 72 (deviant) sects be in the fire for eternity? Benefit us”.

Response: The prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said, “The Jews split into 71 sects, meaning all of them are astray and their affair ruined, except one. The Christians split into 72 sects, meaning all of them are astray and their affair ruined, except one. And this Ummah will split into 73 sects- all of them in the fire, except one. This one group is Ahlus Sunnah Wal Jamaa’ah [those who firmly adhere to the authentic Prophetic Sunnah and are united upon that] – the companions of the Prophet and those who follow them exactly in faith, the adherents to pure Islamic monotheism and sound faith.

As for the other 72 sects that have been threatened with the fire, among them is one who is a disbeliever (a), among them is one who is a sinner and among them is one about whom it is established with clear evidence that he is an innovator in religious affairs. So, the one – among them – that dies in a state of disbelief (b) will be in the fire for eternity, the one that dies in a state of adherence to religious innovation that is lesser than major disbelief (c) or sins is under the will of Allah, while still threatened with the fire. So, based on this it is known that not all of them are disbelievers, but rather among them is a disbeliever and other than him among the sinners and the innovators in religious affairs. [1]

May Allah bless and reward our beloved brother Zulfikaar for sharing the Arabic text Imam Ibn Baz’s clarification Aameen

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[a and b]: NB: Takfeer – declaring that a Muslim left the fold of Islaam is a judgement that can only be given by the upright scholars and none else.  https://www.manhaj.com/manhaj/articles/obkwf-takfir-and-the-excuse-of-ignorance-shaykh-saalih-al-fawzaan.cfm

[c]: NB: All innovations in the religion are evil, but there are those that exit a person from the fold of Islam (Bida’atul Mukaffirah) and those that do not exit a person from the fold of Islam (Bida’atul Mufassiqah). Al-Allamah Rabee Bin Hadi Al-Mad’khalee [may Allaah preserve him] was asked whether there is a difference between Bidah Al-Mukaffirah and Bidah Al-Mufassiqah; so he replied that there is Bidah Mukaffirah, such as rejecting the Ruyah (i.e. denying that the believers will see Allaah in the afterlife); rejecting Allaah’s Uluww [i.e. denying that Allaah is above his creation –Allaah ascended over the Throne in a way that benefits his majesty)]; invoking other than Allaah; offering slaughtered sacrifice (i.e. animals) to other than Allaah etc. These are affairs of Bidah Al-Mukaffirah (the bidah that is tantamount to disbelief). But we do not make Takfeer of the people who commit this type of Bidah until we establish the proofs against them. That is because some of them (i.e. the people who fall into these affairs) carry doubts and are far away from the era of Prophethood and its light (i.e. guidance). So they fall into the likes these innovations. Rejecting the Ruyah is disbelief; rejecting Allaah’s Uluww is disbelief; the saying that the Qur’aan is created is disbelief-major disbelief. But this person, -[who testifies that none has the right to be worshipped except Allaah and that Muhammad is the messenger of Allaah, and he prays, observes fasting, wants paradise and believes in that] -received the doubts of the people of falsehood, so he falls into the likes of these affairs (i.e. these innovations that are tantamount to disbelief). So we say to him: You have fallen into disbelief and the evidence is this and this, and we clarify for him. So if Allaah grants him Tawfeeq and he returns to the truth, then all praise is due to Allaah. But if not, we declare him a disbeliever after establishing the proofs against him. As for Bidah Al-Mufassiqah it is other than this (i.e. it is not at the level of that which is tantamount to disbelief)…
[A paraphrased excerpt. see www.rabee.net/ar/questions.php?cat=26&id=484 ]


[1]: paraphrased. see link below
https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/17308/%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%AF-%D8%A8%D9%82%D9%88%D9%84%D9%87-%EF%B7%BA-%D9%83%D9%84%D9%87%D9%85-%D9%81%D9%8A-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%86%D8%A7%D8%B1-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7-%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AD%D8%AF%D8%A9

 

My intention is not to resemble them in my clothing or hairstyle!

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Brief Commentary – By Imam Muhammad Ibn Salih Al-Uthaymin – On The Hadith: “Whoever resembles a people is from them”.

The Shaikh: Among the (extracted) benefits from the narration of Ibn Umar is encouragement to resemble the righteous based on the statement of the Messenger: “Whoever resembles a people is from them.” This benefit extends to encouragement to follow the pious predecessors in worship, belief, methodology, and all aspects of life, so that an individual may be from what?

The student: From them.

The Shaikh: Is a person (considered to) resemble them in actions that are not performed as acts of worship, such as the manner of walking or dressing, or if it is stated that resembling them in attire means that an individual may wear what is customary worn by the people of his country, provided it is not prohibited?The answer is the second (statement), and due to this, we say: following custom in the manner of dress is Sunnah, provided it (such type of dress) is not prohibited.

One of the benefits of this hadith is the caution against resembling disbelievers or a warning against resembling the disbelievers due to the statement of the Messenger: “He is from them.”

Is this (resemblance deemed) hated or forbidden? What is correct is that it is forbidden, and that it is forbidden for a person to resemble the disbelievers. One of the benefits of this hadith is that whenever resemblance takes place, the ruling is established (forbidden), regardless of whether it (the act) is intentional or unintentional.

If someone were to say that he wears the clothing of the disbelievers (i.e. what is not allowed Islamically) but he does not intend to resemble them. We would say: but resemblance has indeed occurred. The place of one’s intention is the heart; we disapprove of him based on what he has manifested of resemblance. As for his relationship with his Creator, this is not for us to judge. This is because at present when some person is prohibited, he says: “I dont intend resemblance”. For instance, you find him styling his hair in a partucular manner that is known to be from (the unlawful) adornment of the disbelievers, so if you tell him about it and he said: “I don’t intend resemblance”, what do we say to him? We say: Resemblance has occurred; resemblance has taken place while intention remains a hidden matter that cannot be known (i.e. it’s hidden in your heart). The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, stated, “Whoever resembles a people is from them,” thus linking the ruling to the act of resembling.

Also, caution must be exercised with regards to following Ahlul Bidah because if you follow them, then indeed you’ve resembled them and are from them. The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said, “Every innovation (in religion) is a misguidance, and every misguidance leads to the Fire”.

https://www.alathar.net/home/esound/index.php?op=codevi&coid=32008 (paraphrased)