“The believer does not get stung in the same hole twice”
In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.
Imam Abdul Aziz Bin Baaz, may Allah have mercy upon him, was asked: “The believer does not get stung in the same hole twice. Is this a hadith?
Answer: Yes, it is an authentic Hadith and its meaning is that it is obligated to a believer that he is cautious if he was harmed by a person. If Zayd once deceived him, he is then cautious so that Zayd does not deceive him again. If Amr committed injustice against him in a mutual dealing, he is cautious in another mutual dealing. This is what the affair is, meaning that it is obligated to him to prevent the evil of the one who deceived or harmed him the first time. [1]
When we were much younger – starting in 1995, we quickly placed our trust in people. Sadly, some of those closest to us- whom we loved and trusted as teachers due to their familiarity with Al Allamah Muqbil and other scholars- sometimes harboured ulterior motives, took advantage of that trust and caused us harm. Every conflict we’ve experienced since 1995 has exposed the troubling behavior of those who exploited others’ trust, exaggerated their own accomplishments, and belittled anyone who dared to challenge them, all while being the first to claim they were wronged or that they were genuine advisers. We have witnessed far too much of this from individuals we never expected to act in such a way, given the kindness they initially displayed. Likewise, we have observed many who relentlessly sought to dominate every conversation and refused to acknowledge the rights they owed others unless it aligned with their own personal agendas.
We are well aware of some individuals who persuaded us with negative narratives about others under the guise of Dawah and steadfastness. They even utilized us as a means to undermine others, visiting figures like Al-Allamah Rabee, may Allah have mercy upon him, to create a distorted view of others in an attempt to rewrite history. Their desire to be seen as the ultimate authority led them to act as they wished, disregarding the need for self-improvement in some of their interactions, especially when required to behave themselves. When confronted, they resorted to declaring hostility, scheming, flattering others, and engaging in a disheartening quest for fault-finding. They claimed their opponents were wrong without providing any solid evidence, instead fabricating isolated incidents, manipulating facts, or exaggerating situations. This behavior persisted despite being reminded that they cannot act freely without consequences, and that friendship and closeness should not take precedence over the integrity of Dawah. In light of these observations, we take this opportunity to remind ourselves and our younger brothers of this hadith in Al-Bukhari.
Imam Al-Bukhari, may Allah have mercy upon him, said, “Chapter: Avoiding the use of tricks. and everybody will get the reward according to his intention”. Narrated Umar Ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, that the prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: ‘’The reward of deeds depends upon the intentions, and every person will get the reward according to what he intended. So, whoever emigrates for Allah and His Messenger, then his emigration will be for Allah and His Messenger, and whoever emigrates to take a worldly benefit or for a woman to marry, then his emigration will be for what he emigrated for”. [Al-Bukhaari 6953]
Imam Abdul Aziz Bin Baaz, may Allah have mercy upon him, said: There is no place for trickery in Ibadaat [acts of worship] nor in Mu’aamalaat [i.e. mutual dealings]. Therefore, it is obligatory to approach matters through their appropriate paths [i.e. carrying out deeds without tricks or ulterior motives]. [2]
By Allah, and Allah is our witness to our words, there were individuals who employed flattery and the strategy of divide and conquer to achieve their personal ambitions. We are aware of one individual involved in the Dawah, who sought to undermine Shaikh Abu Khadeejah while extolling the virtues of others and the likes of Shaikh Abu Talhah, may Allah have mercy upon him and his wife. When those others either reprimanded him or expressed their dissatisfaction with his actions, or made it clear that they were unwilling to engage in his trivial pursuits of self-importance, he branded them as weak, accused them of blind following, and made veiled allegations of hizbiyyah, even going so far as to question their manhaj. Although Shaikh Abu Khadeejah was not the only one who opposed his conduct, he chose to target him for disparagement because the Shaikh stood firm in his principles. I, by Allah, recall when Shaikh Abu Khadeejah, despite being attacked and vilified, asked me in one of our conversations via email that I speak to this individual and emphasise the importance of brotherhood. He made this request because I was among the closest to this obstinate person. There were numerous actions of this individual that I supported due to my inexperience, our closeness, and the benefits he had provided me in issues of knowledge since 1995, but his shortcomings gradually became apparent, and many of us recognised that he was opinionated, self-entitled, and quick to turn against someone simply for being advised to improve and reform his behaviour. We beseech Allah to protect us from trials involving such individuals until we meet Him, Amin. Similarly, we ask Allah to guide this person back to good conduct, Amin.
Indeed, what we have experienced through such individuals make us cautious of the fact that when blessed with skills to teach and guide people, one should be cautious of utilising snooker and mental tactics to control for his own benefit those who genuinely love and trust him. One should be careful of feints and deceptive maneuvers to mislead the opponent in order to nullify the truth with others and make one appear as the one with truth. Another bad behaviour is rally support in private to cause harm while showing a different image in public in order to overcome others swiftly and surprisingly. This is not brotherhood and we ask Allah to protect us from the likes of this behaviour Amin.
Those who placed their trust in this individual, despite benefiting in certain aspects related to Aqeedah and Manhaj, deserved to truly understand the reality of this person’s disputes as they were, with clarity, rather than being flattered or feeling an unqualified obligation to support him. As a result, they became disconnected from a complete understanding, only grasping specific issues regarding his personal disputes in a manner that contradicted the actual truth. They interpreted those matters, even though there were clear indications that the person they backed was mistaken. Similarly, there were times when they understood certain issues but were also aware of conflicting information that they believed could equally represent the truth. Reflecting on our past experiences in such situations, we later understood why Al-Allamah Rabee, may Allah have mercy upon him, consistently stressed the importance of Sidq. This individual finally allied with al-Hajuri.
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We reiterate, “A believer does not get stung in the same hole twice.” Therefore, we do not engage with anyone who initiates personal conflicts as a way to gain status or undermine others simply because they have been advised to conduct themselves properly. We do not support those who lash out at individuals they harbour personal animosity towards, subsequently targeting anyone they perceive as being close to those individuals, especially through social media. This behaviour escalated in the past to open attacks under the guise of offering sincere advice, where the perpetrator sought out faults and exaggerated these perceived mistakes to mislead unsuspecting observers. This kind of behaviour is not befitting anyone, especially those among us over the age of forty or in their early, mid or late fifties. It is not tolerated from anyone no matter the claims, persistence, or sensationalism used by those who choose this route at anytime.
Instead, we should focus our time and energy on ourselves and the younger individuals in our Marakiz, engaging in learning, cooperation, and offering advice to one another with kindness and compassion. It is not enough to simply quote scholars about unity, brotherhood and mutual advice, rather, we must also act in ways that help us put these principles into practice. The Dawah, alhamdulillah, is straightforward, and both our elder and younger teachers continue to maintain links with the senior scholars and their students.
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We ask Allah to unite our hearts, grant us the ability to act with goodness, give us forgiving hearts, and instill in us a desire for nothing but Allah’s reward. We seek Allah’s protection from feeling exalted and important within ourselves while being insignificant in the sight of Allah. We ask Allah to count us among the truthful and those who set aside their desires for the greater good, and to keep us away from all deceitful individuals. Amin.
[2] An Excerpt from Al-Hulalul Ibriziyyah Min at-Ta’leeqaat Al-Baaziyyah Alaa Sahih Al-Bukhari’ 4/353. footnote 1