The silent battle for self-honesty

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Anas Ibn Malik, may Allah be pleased with him, stated: I accompanied Umar Ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, until he entered a garden. I heard him speaking while there was a wall between us, and he was inside the garden saying: “O Umar Ibn al-Khattab! The Commander of the Faithful, take heed! By Allah, you must fear Allah, or He will indeed punish you.” [1]

Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud, may Allah be pleased with him: “Indeed, the people make their speech very good and appropriate; the one whose speech conforms with his actions is that one who has achieved his portion of (good). And the one whose speech opposes his actions, then he is that one who has rebuked himself’’. [2]

Jubair Ibn Nufair, may Allah have mercy on him, said: A delegation said to Umar Ibn Al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him: “By Allah! We have never seen a man who is more just, speaks the truth more boldly, or is tougher on hypocrites than you, O Commander of the Faithful. You are the best of people after Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him”. In response, Awf Ibn Malik, may Allah be pleased with him, said: “You have lied (or said something contrary to reality)! Certainly, we have seen someone better than him after Allah’s Messenger”. When asked who that was, Awf replied, “Abu Bakr.” Umar said: “Awf has spoken the truth and you have lied (or said something contrary to reality). By Allah! Indeed, Abu Bakr was more fragrant than musk, while I am more lost than a stray camel!” [3]

Abu Ubaydah Ibn Al-Jarrah, may Allah be pleased with him, once led a group in prayer. After he finished, he remarked, “Shaytan has not left me alone until he made me feel more virtuous than those behind me. I will never lead again.” [4]

Abu Hafs, may Allah have mercy upon him, stated: “Whoever does not blame his soul at all times, does not oppose it in all circumstances, and does not compel it at all times to do (the good) it hates to do, he is truly deceived. Anyone who views any aspect of their soul favourably has ruined himself”. The soul calls for destruction, aiding adversaries, yearning for all that is vile, and following every evil. It inclines towards opposing (what is right). The greatest blessing is to escape its grasp, as it serves as the most significant barrier between a person and Allah . Those who are most aware of this are often the harshest critics of their own souls, holding them in contempt. To despise the self for the sake of Allah is a trait of the righteous, and through this disdain, a person can draw closer to Allah in an instant, far more than through actions. [5]

Imam Al-Aajurree – may Allah have mercy upon him- said: I will provide you with a similitude that is clear to you. Know that the soul can be compared to a young horse, and the beholder is amazed when he looks at its good appearance and beauty. The people who possess knowledge regarding it say, “It will not yield any benefit until it undergoes proper training and discipline, at which point it will prove to be advantageous – capable of performing well and being of service, leading its rider to commend the results of its training and discipline. However, without discipline, its attractive appearance and beauty will be futile, and its rider will not praise its performance when needed”.

If the young horse’s owner heeds the advice of knowledgeable individuals regarding its situation, he will recognize the validity of their counsel and subsequently entrust the horse to a trainer. A horse trainer is only deemed deserving of the title if they are skilled in the training process and possess patience.

If the trainer is well-versed in horse training and understands the most effective approach, the owner will benefit; however, if the trainer lacks expertise in horse training and discipline, he will harm the young horse, expend unnecessary effort, and the rider will be dissatisfied with the outcome.

Should he possess expertise in horse training and disciplinary techniques, yet lack the fortitude to withstand the challenges inherent in the process, seek comfort over perseverance, and exhibit negligence towards the appropriate actions to be taken, he will ultimately ruin and mistreat the young horse, rendering it unsuitable for duty and incapable of running, resulting in a discrepancy between its outward appearance and its actual capabilities.

If the owner of the young horse was also its trainer, he would feel remorse when regret becomes futile due to his neglect. So, when a task is required, he looks at another horse whose assistance is requested and given and moves swiftly when necessary. However, when he asks his horse for help and requests it to move swiftly, he receives no answer and the horse refuses to comply. All of this is a result of his negligence in training the horse and his impatience after acknowledging it. Consequently, he starts to blame himself, saying: “Why was I negligent and why did I fall short? Truly, my impatience has caused everything I detest”. And Allah’s Aid is sought! Consider and comprehend this similitude, may Allah have mercy on you, so that you may be successful and saved. [6]

Jundub Al-Bajalee, may Allah be pleased with him, said: “The example of one who admonishes the people but forgets himself is like a lamp that gives light to others and burns itself”. [7]

[1] Al-Muwatta 2860

[2] Al-Fawaa’id by Imaam Ibnul Qayyim. page 213

[3] At-Tarikh Al-Kabir 4/266

[4] Musannaf Ibn Abee Shaybah 1/358

[5] Ighatha Al-Lahfan 94

[6] An Excerpt from Adab An-Nufus. Page 5

[7] Az-Zudh. By Imam Ahmad. 330