This is why shaytan hates the love, harmony and patience between you and your wife!

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessing of Allaah be upon him, said, “There is Sadaqah (charity) to be given for every joint of the human body (as a sign of gratitude to Allah) every day the sun rises. To judge justly between two persons is regarded as Sadaqah, and to help man concerning his riding animal by helping him to ride it or by lifting his luggage on to it, is also regarded as Sadaqah, and (saying) a good word is also Sadaqah, and every step taken on one’s way to offer the compulsory congregational prayer is also Sadaqah, and to remove a harmful thing from the way is also Sadaqah”. [Al-Bukhari 2989]

In his explanation of this hadith, Al-Allamah Salih Al-Fawzan, may Allah preserve him, said:

Therefore, a person should not leave the people in dispute; rather it is incumbent upon him to be eager to bring about conciliation between disputing parties, especially relatives. As for some people-and Allah’s Protection is sought, they only bring into disputes that which will increase it. This type of person is a Shaytan. Also the one who seeks to bring about conciliation between the people should do that with justice; he should not oppress any of them or judge based on desires. [1]

Narrated Jabir, may Allah be pleased with him, that Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “Iblis places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments [for creating dissension]; the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: ‘I did such and such’. He says: ‘You have done nothing’. Then one amongst them comes and says: ‘I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife’. The Satan goes near him and says: ‘You have done well’. Al A’mash said: ‘He then embraces him'”. [Sahih Muslim. 2813]

Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy upon him, said: And because of the fact that this bond (between husband and wife) is one of the most beloved to Allaah and His Messenger, it is one of the most hated to the enemy of Allah [i.e. shaytaan]. Thus, he hastens to split two people who love one another for the sake of Allah. [2]

[1] An Excerpt from “Al-Minhatur Rabbaaniyyah Fee Sharh Al-Arba’een” pages 213-217
[2] Rawdah Al-Muhibbeen 188