What must I give someone I genuinely love?

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

A Conversation Between Imam Al-Albani, may Allah have mercy upon him, and others

The Arabic text of this article was shared by our close companion and friend, Ustadh Abu Tasneem (Mushaf Al-Banghali), who suggested that I share it in the English language. May Allah bless him and his family Ameen.

لشيخ : ما هو ثمن الحب في الله؟ ما تقول؟ ارفع اصبعك بس هالي عندو جواب يعطينا هذا الجواب على هذا السؤال، تفضل
السائل : يقول عليه الصلاة والسلام ( سبعة يظلهم الله في ظله يوم لا ظل إلا ظله رجلان تحابا في الله اجتمعا على ذلك و … )
الشيخ : إيه هذا جواب، كلام صحيح في نفسه ولكن ليس جوابا للسؤال
السائل : هذا جزاء
الشيخ : أيوه، هذا تعريف للحب في الله تقريبا وليس تعريف كامل، أنا سؤالي ما هو الثمن الذي ينبغي أن يدفعه المتحابان في الله أحدهما للآخر ولا أعني الأجر الأخروي وبعبارة أخرى أنه هذا السؤال حاديث وطارئ بيجوز يكون يعني سؤالي قاصر فقد … أعدد أعدد حتى أشوف حالي أنا أحسنت السؤال، أريد أنا من السؤال أن أقول ما هو الدليل العملي على الحب في الله بين اثنين متحابّين فقد يكون رجلان متحابين لكن تحاببهم شكلي ما هو حقيقي فما الدليل على الحب الحقيقي
سائل آخر : أن أحب إليك ما أحبه لنفسي
الشيخ : هذا صفة الحب أو بعض صفات الحب
السائل : الخلاصة
الشيخ : تفضل
السائل : قال الله تعالى (( إن كنتم تحبون الله فاتبعوني يحببكم الله ))
الشيخ : هذا جواب لسؤال آخر، جواب صحيح لسؤال آخر، تفضل
سائل أخر : الجواب قد يكون الحديث الصحيح
الشيخ : ابعد عن القدقدة لأنه ما بيكون جواب
السائل : الحديث الصحيح ( ثلاث من كن فيه وجد حلاوة الإيمان )
الشيخ : وجد
السائل : نعم، من ضمنه الذي يتحابّا في الله
الشيخ : أحب الرجل فلا يحبه إلا في الله، هذا ليس جوابا، هذا أثر المحبة في الله، ما هو؟ حلاوة يجدها في قلبه وليس كان السؤال ما أثر الحب في الله، تفضل
سائل أخر : كأنك تريد قوله تعالى
الشيخ : ما لك وما أريد، جاوب على السؤال
السائل : (( والعصر إن الإنسان لفي خسر إلا الذين آمنوا وعملوا الصالحات وتواصوا بالحق وتواصوا بالصبر ))
الشيخ : هذا هو الجواب أحسنت، هذا هو الجواب، شرح هذا إذا كنت أنا أحبك في الله فعلا تابعتك بالنصيحة كذلك أنت تقابلني بالمثل ولذلك فهذه المتاعبة بالنصيحة قليلة جدا بين المدعين الحب في الله عز وجل، الحب هذا قد يكون فيه شيء من الإخلاص ولكن ما هو كامل وذلك لأن كل واحد منا بيراعي الثاني، إيه بنخاف ليزعل، بنخاف ليشرد، إيه خليه معنا يعيش معنا … بـ بـ إلخ.
مو هذا هو، الحب في الله ثمنه أن يخلص كل واحد منا للآخر وذلك بمناصحته، يأمره بالمعروف وينهاه عن المنكر دائما وأبدا فهو له في نصحه أتبع له من ظله والصورة التي ذكرها الأخ في الواقع هو من أحسن … يمكن أن يكون عن ذلك السؤال ولذلك صحّ أنه كان من أدب الصّحابة حينما يتفرقان أن يقرأ أحدهما على الآخر
والعصر إن الإنسان لفي خسر إلا الذين أمنوا وعملوا الصالحات وتواصوا بالحق وتواصوا بالصبر

The Shaikh: What is the worth (value) of love for the sake of Allah? What do you say (i.e. your opinion)? Please raise your finger if you have an answer to this question; go ahead.

The questioner: The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “Allah will shade seven individuals on the Day when there is no shade except His shade: two men who love each other for the sake of Allah and come together for that purpose, and…” (a)

The Shaikh: This answer is a correct statement in its essence, but it is not the (intended) answer to the question.

The questioner: This is a (good) recompense.

The Shaikh: This is a closer definition of love for the sake of Allah, but it is not a complete definition. My question is about the value that two individuals who love each other for Allah’s sake must give (bestow) to one another. I do not mean the rewards in the Hereafter. I would like to know what practical evidence exists to demonstrate love for the sake of Allah between two individuals. It is possible for two men to love each other, but it is superficial and not real. What is the proof of love (for the sake of Allah) in reality?

Another questioner: To wish for you what I wish for myself.

The Shaikh: This is a characteristic of love or some characteristics of love.

The questioner: The summary.

The Shaikh: Please proceed.

The questioner: Allah, The Exalted, says: [إن كنتم تحبون الله فاتبعوني يحببكم الله – Say (Muhammad the people)! If you truly love Allah, then follow me, Allah will love you]. (b)

The Shaikh: This is an answer to a different question. It is a correct answer to another question; please proceed.

Another questioner: The answer may be an authentic hadith.

The Shaikh: Distance from (avoid) Qadqadah (speech built on may be, may not), as it may not yield any (meaningful) answers.

The questioner: The authentic hadith: “There are three qualities for which anyone who is characterised by them will find the sweetness of faith…” (c)

The Shaikh: (Will) find (the sweetness of faith)…

The questioner: Yes, a condition (or something that must be present) for those who love one another for the sake of Allah.

The Shaikh: “To love a man only for the sake of Allah”, this is not the (real) answer. This (hadith) is a sign (or an effect) of love for the sake of Allah. What is this sign (or effect)? It is a sweetness experienced in his heart. The question was not about the effects of love for the sake of Allah. Please continue.

Another questioner: It seems you are referring to (or you intend) the statement of Allah…

The Shaikh: What do you have and what do I want? Answer the question.

The questioner:

والعصر إن الإنسان لفي خسر إلا الذين آمنوا وعملوا الصالحات وتواصوا بالحق وتواصوا بالصبر

By (the phenomenon of) time (which Allah manifests through His creation of night and day and in which the servants perform their deeds). Indeed, (all of) mankind is in loss. Except those who believe (in Allāh, His Angels, Books, Prophets, the Last Day and the Divine Decree) and work righteous deeds (which are sincere and correct) and mutually advise each other (in calling to and abiding by) the truth and mutually advise each other with patience (in facing the inevitable harms brought by calling to the truth). (d)

The Shaikh: This is the answer, well done. This is the answer. The explanation of this is that if I (truly) love you for the sake of Allah, I will offer you sincere advice, and you should reciprocate in kind. For this reason, this mutual advice is quite rare among those who claim to love one another for the sake of Allah, The Mighty and Majestic. While this love may contain some degree of sincerity, it is not complete, as each of us tends to consider the feelings of the other (i.e. at the expense of sincere advice). We fear annoying (one another), making (one another) startled (creating distance). Let him live with us (i.e. we prefer to keep each other at the expense of sincere advice).

The price (or value) of love for the sake of Allah is to be sincere to one another through sincere advice, enjoining good, and forbidding evil- always and forever. The bond formed through such advice is more profound than mere companionship. The example provided by the brother is indeed commendable and relevant to the inquiry at hand. It has been established with authenticity from the etiquettes of the Prophet’s companions that when (they met and before) departing, one of them would recite to the other:

والعصر إن الإنسان لفي خسر إلا الذين أمنوا وعملوا الصالحات وتواصوا بالحق وتواصوا بالصبر

By (the phenomenon of) time (which Allah manifests through His creation of night and day and in which the servants perform their deeds). Indeed, (all of) mankind is in loss. Except those who believe (in Allāh, His Angels, Books, Prophets, the Last Day and the Divine Decree) and work righteous deeds (which are sincere and correct) and mutually advise each other (in calling to and abiding by) the truth and mutually advise each other with patience (in facing the inevitable harms brought by calling to the truth). [Paraphrased excerpt. Your feedback welcome to improve this paraphrase] https://alathar.net/home/esound/index.php?op=codevi&coid=158162

[a] Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “There are seven whom Allah will shade on a day when there is no shade but His. They are a just ruler, a youth who grew up in the worship of Allah, one whose heart is attached to the mosques, two who love each other, meet each other, and depart from each other for the sake of Allah, a man who a beautiful woman of high status tempts but he rejects her, saying, ‘I fear Allah,’ and one who spends in charity and hides it such that his right-hand does not know what his left hand has given, and one who remembered Allah in private and he wept.” [Al-Bukhari 660 and Muslim 1031]

[b] Surah Aal Imran. Ayah 31

[c] “There are three qualities for which anyone who is characterised by them will find the sweetness of faith: he to whom Allah and His Messenger are dearer than all else; he who loves a man for Allah’s sake alone; and he who has as great an abhorrence of returning to unbelief after Allah has rescued him from it as he has of being cast into Hell”. [Sahih Muslim 43]

[d] https://www.thenoblequran.com/q/#/sura/103/1
https://salafidawah.uk/2023/12/15/the-pinnacle-of-human-perfection-is-attained-through-four-qualities/