The Importance of Marriage

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Taking Into Consideration The Benefits Of Choosing A Relative Or Non Relative In Marriage

 The Non Relative:

It is the (woman) with whom you have no common ancestry. She is not from the children of your uncle; rather she is from a foreign people. The reasons for (marrying this type of woman) are two:

The First Reason; A child born (in this marriage) will have something foreign in him because he takes from the characteristics of his maternal uncles and that of his father’s people. So he is a (child) from two complete (human progenies) and this is something sought after. There are many people who have matched their maternal uncles in nobility, farsightedness and manliness.

The Second Reason; It may be that when the man (marries a relative), and there happens to occur an argument between him and her, this can sever the ties of kinship. For example, if there happens to occur trouble between them, he may fall into an argument with his uncle or father and this may sever the ties of kinship. So in this case, marrying a foreign woman is much better.

Choosing A Relative For Marriage

If he (the man) finds amongst his relatives one who is better than this (foreign woman) due to some other considerations, then this is better; meaning: in comparing (the foreign woman to the relative), it may be that the foreign woman is better, but in taking into consideration other matters, then no doubt we give precedence to the relative. For example, if his uncle’s daughter is one who has Deen and good manners, but (her and her family) are helpless and require some assistance, then no doubt in this is a great benefit (to marry your relative). Therefore, a person has to take into consideration the benefits in this affair (of choosing a spouse)…….

And Allaah knows best